Life as an Aunt

Can you remember the feeling when your first niece or nephew was born ? how about the 2nd or 3rd?

I have 3 nieces - Anya (8yrs), Cait (8yrs) and Gab (4yrs). When they were born, the feeling of excitement and joy were all the same. I also now have a nephew dog named Charlie (1 yr).

I was not present when they were born as I live in a foreign country. Sometimes, I would look back and wonder, wish I was with them at the hospital. So, I promised myself to attend their 1st birthday and thankfully, I did it.

My nieces are still very young and probably why its easy and light. I am aware that when they grow up, things may not be the same.

What I hope to share with you today are few tips that may help you build a good relationship with young niece/nephew. Message me if you have some tips.

1. Spend Time. Whether you are with them or not, find time to ask their parents how the kids are doing. Send photos, or videos or voice recording. When you are physically with them, try to pay attention and be by their side when you can.

2. Listen. When I say listen, its not only about nodding or saying uh huh, yes or no. Its about looking at their faces and nodding and communicating.

3. You are d' Aunt. We should be reminded about our boundaries.. Spoiling is for Aunt. Discipline is for parents.

4. Hugs and Kisses, matter.

5. Treat each equally. Each has its won personality, appreciate their individuality.

6. Spoil for a reason. There's a thin line between a normal meet up with nieces/nephews and an extraordinary day for treats. These are achieving good grades in school, good deeds they've done for others, or performance in school.

7. Love. Aside from their parents, be the aunt they are comfortable sharing anything. Be the aunt who put smile on their faces. What you do or show them is making an impact for their future.

Some would say nieces or nephews will not be with us when we grow old. I say, today is what matter. I care for the Now. For the memories I am building with my nieces and how I can teach kindness, sharing and gratitude.

I was once like them when I was a child. My aunts and elder cousins created wonderful memories that up to this date I can recall with smile on my face.

Letter to Anya, Cait and Gab, (and Charlie)

Dear girls,

One day, I hope you will be able to see this blog. You have brought so much joy and craziness in my life. And I love you all :)

I am slowly discovering your personality and style. I am enjoying this journey with you and excited to see you grow. I dream of one day all of us would go out for an Afternoon Tea or Aperitivo as we can talk about anything that you are hesitant to share with your parents (wink wink)! : -)

To our little furry, I can speak for the entire family - we love you so much!

Love,

Ninang Grachelle